誰 - 蔡健雅

A friend today said when it comes to relationship, he's a person that would be looking for someone that would fulfill some of his qualities. What is the other person doesn't fulfill the criteria that you have set, but treats you the way you deserve to be and love you all the same? I suppose that when it comes to loving someone or when being in a relationship, we shouldn't have any judgment or setting the criteria to a certain level that the other party must fulfill most of it. Paulo Coelho said it nicely in his book 'Brida' that emotions are like wild horses, the more we try to subdue it or control it, the wilder it will become. When feelings is there, no matter what criteria or physical attraction the other person has, it doesn't matter anymore. Cuz all of those are just materials, and the feeling are not attached to the materials. What if we like someone due to the criteria that they've fulfilled and yet 10 years down the road, the things are not there anymore? What is left in the relationship then? Like someone for who they are, not what they are.